I just heard about this story on Family Radio the radio the other day, involving a 17-year-old, pregnant teen in Utah, who allegedly paid a man to beat her up and induce a miscarriage. This young woman is accused of paying 21-year-old Arron Harrison $150 to beat her up, after her boyfriend threatened to break up with her if she didn't get rid of the child. She is now being charged in Juvenile Court with first degree felony criminal solicitation to commit murder, and she has been ordered by a Judge to remain in Juvenile Detention.
I must say that I am both horribly shocked but at the same time, not terribly surprised, by this unfortunate story. When I was in high school and college myself, and now even when I visit high school and college campuses when I speak across the U.S., the incidence of young women inducing their own miscarriages was and is very commonplace. What makes this young woman's story so unique is the length at which she was willing to go to have this miscarriage, and the subsequent response to it.
I am saddened that this young woman felt such obvious pressure to end her pregnancy, for fear of losing her boyfriend. Why is it that we punish this young woman for the poor choice that she made to place herself and her unborn child at risk, while her boyfriend, who influenced this decision, goes without any consequence? Unfortunately, this is also a very common circumstance in our world; out of fear of losing her family, her friends, her significant other, her job or education, many women feel like ending their pregnancy, despite their own feelings about their unborn child, about having an abortion, is the only choice available to them to meet their needs. All the while, the family, partner, friend, employer, whomever gave her the ultimatum, whomever backed her into a corner where she felt like abortion was the only choice, are not consequenced, are not even confronted by society for their actions or inactions to support the woman.
I don't know for sure what drove my own mother to enter the hospital in August of 1977 to undergo the abortion attempt that was meant to take my life, but from what I've gathered so far from my biological father's family, it may very well have been her father, my biological maternal grandfather, who influenced her to have the abortion. My biological parents had dated for four years before becoming pregnant with me and from all accounts, they were in love with one another. No one in my biological father's family had any idea that my biological mother was ever pregnant with my father's child. The only thing that they do recall is that one night back in 1977, my maternal grandfather called my biological father and told him to "never darken their doorstep again." My biological parents broke up, and she was never seen with my father again. My grandfather, a school administrator, was known to be a very demanding, commanding, controlling individual, and from the sounds of it, my mother's life was not off limits to his control.
It's interesting isn't it, how this young woman, not much younger than my mother was when she became pregnant with me, is being charged with felony to commit murder for this incident, which gratefully did not severely harm her or her baby, but yet my own biological mother, who went through a five-day attempt to end my life, was never consequenced or scrutinized for the very same "choice" she made to attempt to end her child's life. Please know, by no means, do I believe that my mother should have faced criminal penalty for her choice to end my life, (her penalty has been to have to live with this for the rest of her life and ultimately face God someday), but I do want to point out the inconsistencies in our treatment of women and their so-called "choices", and the often double standards that we impose.
I pray that this young woman comes out of this incident as best as she can, and that no matter what she chooses to do with her child, whether she keeps it, puts it up for adoption, that the baby is unharmed and is loved for who they are. I can relate to this young woman's unborn child. I may have been unplanned by my biological mother, but I was far from being an unwanted child-just ask my adoptive parents.
The reason the "poor excuse for a young man" bears no consequence is simple. (1) Ultimately she made the choice to end the pregnancy.Obviously she cared nothing for her baby. (2) Women (most) scream "its my body" and I have the right to abort a child if I so choose. The "father" has no "parental rights" until that child is delivered (born). Therefore if he has no rights as a father and he did not forceably make her end the pregnancy he is blameless (in our society). There is no illegal activity in telling another person "I want to break up with you unless you end your pregnancy". Why? Because "abortion is legal" and so being he "does not" bear any responsibility. Hey its a womens body to do with as she pleases, "right". Unfortunately this young woman made two bad decisions, to end the pregnancy and to do so by illegal means.
This young woman made her bed and should suffer the consequences. (They should both be sterilized). Women want everything to change for them. If a female teacher molests a 13 year old boy in her class, she is seen as "disturbed" or "confused" and is often given probation or a light sentence. If a male teacher does the same with a 13 year old female he is a "scum pedophile" and almost always gets a heavy sentence. (I believe they should both be executed).
I am not defending the young mans actions. My son and daughter always knew that "if" they created a life "they would" be responsible for that life or the consequences on the home front would be extreme.
What I am saying is this; the poor pitiful me, I am so discriminated against attitude women have so prediciously learned to use is getting as old as all the "poor pitiful me" attitudes minorties and others spout off about.
There will always be discrimination, bias and inequity in every society. It will come from every race and culture. Instead of drowning in it "suck it up, grow a set" and step around those that love the "hate".
She made a choice. She bears the responsibility. I heard Samuel L. Jackson say in an interview (yesterday); Paraphrase: I will tell you whats wrong out there, people do anything they want because they no longer have to suffer consequences for their actions. For the most part he was spot on!
This liberal "no responsibility" culture we live in, is for the most part, the idea of "women". If you want to blame someone then put it on the backs of Ms. Roe (abortion), Madeline "O'Hare (no Christian Prayer in Schools), Gloria Stienem and so on. All the weak minded men that accepted and embraced this sinful theology are worse than the women that promoted it. Sodom lives.
We humans crucifed "Jesus" even though Pontious Pilate said "I can find no wrong in this man" we still screamed for his blood. Without God in our hearts we are selfish and self destructing. No doubt her parents, the boyfriend and the young woman did not get that exposure to the Holy Spirit while in school. The very years that form our lives forever.
So much of the attention is always focus on the young girl is situation like this. I have yet to hear the outcry about how young men are behaving. Parents are so focus on teaching their daughters to do the right thing while at the same time ignoring their sons. We have to do a better job at raising our sons to grow into responsible men.
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