These dolts seem to think so.
I know, I know ... I promised that I would try to get to know people before blogging about them, especially if the blog post is likely to be hostile. Well, this post is hostile. In fairness, I've read the FAQ on the "Choice for Men" (C4M) website, as well as their claims of unequal protection. I still think it's a horrible idea.
If you have sex, you risk making a baby. That's a basic biological fact, not some antiquated moral code.
"Use contraception!" Contraception can fail.
"What if she lies to me about using contraception?" If you can't trust her about a basic issue like this one, then you shouldn't be having sex with her.
"What about rape?" Women raping men? Theoretically possible, but darned unlikely. Let's move on to a real issue, shall we?
"No, I mean statutory rape!" By definition, any victim of statutory rape is a minor. How many adult women have sex with teenage boys and then expect them to be good fathers? Again ... theoretically possible, but darned unlikely.
"But unplanned fatherhood is a horrible cost for a man!" Don't play if you can't afford to pay, if you know what I mean....
Here's a good, thorough debunking of the C4M claims.
C4M has one valid point, which is that the "right" to abortion creates a fundamental imbalance in the relationship between men and women. Women can have our children killed at will, and we can do nothing to prevent it. On the other hand, women can also refuse to kill our children, leaving us ... responsible for our actions. The horror!
A good friend of mine was dating a young women shortly after graduating from college. Their relationship became sexual. After a while, they parted ways, just one more relationship down the drain.
Shortly after the break-up, the ex-girlfriend called him. She was pregnant, the child was probably his, and she was going to abort. He could not do anything to change her mind. He offered to help her keep the child in any way that she needed. She refused. He offered to take full custody of the child and become a single father. She refused. He offered her everything he had except his immortal soul (and maybe that, too) if only she would allow his child to live. She refused. The child was killed shortly thereafter.
He was devastated. His first child was dead, killed at the request of his/her own mother. He knew about the killing in advance, and he could do nothing to stop it.
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Abortion is not the solution to the problem that C4M has identified. Better male contraception is not the answer, either. What is the solution?
Responsibility. Don't play if you can't afford to pay.
Better yet, men need to get over our attachment to meaningless sex. Sex for the sake of sex is an empty pursuit at best.
Best of all, men need to rediscover what it means to really be a man, and how promiscuity is a waste of our God-given gifts:
It would help to sort out from the usual cliches about “men-and-sex vs. women-and-love” the genuine intuition about what makes male sexuality distinctly male. Everyone has heard the cliches that say, when it comes to sexual retationships, women focus on the intimacy part and men focus on the physical part. But what really makes male sexuality distinctly male? Maybe it can be stated like this. Female sexuality is specific. Women rarely want sex-in-general: their passion is focused on one with whom the sex is desired. Commitment is inherent in female sexuality, no doubt in large part for biological reasons. The question for women is who the lucky winner will be. And the problem is avoiding bad or too early or serial commitments. But male sexuality isn't like that, perhaps again for biological reasons. It is naturally unfocused and amorphous. It is a challenge for men to focus desire onto one person, one woman, one life partner. Herein the culmination of sexual adulthood for men is found. If men engage in too-early-sex or pre-wife promiscuity, not only is true sexual adulthood subverted, but a crucial challenge to the man — an essential test of his masculinity — is lost or failed, all too often in the supposed pursuit of masculinity itself. Promiscuity undermines masculinity. Fatherhood perfects it.
I wish that I had known this truth when I was eighteen & stupid. I'll make sure that my son hears it. I can't make his choices for him, but I can certainly give him the benefits of my own poor choices.
(cross-posted to Naaman the Ex-Leper)
It is amazing how people will flock to an insane idea, just for the opportunity to claim they are "oppressed" in some way. Our entire society has turned into a bastion of of spoiled souls searching for newest class of victims. Being a victim is like winning a prize.....
"Hey! She gets to kill babies and I don't! I'm being discriminated against."
HOW MANLY! What kind of man fights to be on that list? I mean he has the easy part. If he wants no children and can't seem to master the use of a condom, all he has to do is find the most irresponsible, self-centered, immoral women to engage in sex with.......Then she does the killing for you, and you can sell a sob story to some other woman. Although, if she is going to feel sorry for you- you might want to take a quick course on condom use, because this one might actually have morals.....oh, wait a minute, why would she want to have sex with an irresponsible, self-centered, immoral man? This could go on forever.......
Oh- and thanks for sharing this. I have a 16 year old son. He is writing a paper for his Government Economics class on abortion. I am so proud. He also handed me a report card yesterday with ALL A's on it!!!
No- he is no nerd- he's on the football team and quite handsome. I shared this with him and his eyes lit up. "Yeah, self-control IS being man." I would love for him to read this to his class.....
The only guys I can think of that would support this type of initiative would be sexual predators. What are they fighting for anyway? I hear all too often how women are forced or threatened by these types of men to get abortions. Men already have control over forcing abortions. They just can't stop them, and that's the issue that needs to be addressed. And I'm not saying all men that insist on abortions are predators, because most of them later regret their decision. They are as much a victim of "choice" as are those that wanted to keep their children. But I would certainly question the motives of those seeking the "right" of choice.